It Takes Love to Give Love

Ask anybody the key to marriage and most people will likely say communication. In our communication, we are able to express our feelings to those we love. In a study performed by Keresteš, Brković, & Kuterovac-Jagodić, we learn that parents need to feel loved in order to give the best quality of care for their children (2012). Children’s relationships with their parents are more powerful than their relationships with peers in predicting well-being. (Greenberg, Siegel, & Leitch, 1983). Numerous studies show that children are more emotionally autonomous and have better romantic relationships in adulthood when they feel loved in their childhood and adolescence (Baril, Crouter, & McHale, 2007; Nosko, Thanh-Thanh, Lawford, & Pratt, 2011). There are also decreased health risks and childhood stress when parents show affection and warmth toward their children (Rivero, 2013). The upcoming video will explain Gary Chapman’s 5 love languages and how they can be integrated into your relationship with your teenager(s).
Challenge:
Take the quiz with your adolescent(s), share results with one another, and discuss how you will each implement the results into improving your relationship.
Leave a comment below on how you have learned to speak your child’s love language and take the reader survey to help improve upcoming blog posts.
Disclaimer: The authors of this online curriculum are not therapists and are not authorized to give personalized advice to any of the readers. The content of this lesson plan is the creation of the authors alone and does not represent any other entity or organization.
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