Taking Time for Quality Time



After learning your different love languages, this blog will examine building your relationship with your teen through quality time. The following video will explain some of the warnings of boredom in your teenager and how you can help through one-on-one activities, outdoor activities, and family meetings. After the video, please comment below on any questions and stories you may want to share and rate the reader survey.






Challenge

This week’s challenge is to invite your teenager to participate in an activity he/she likes to do. This can be anything from getting ice cream, taking a day trip, or playing his/her favorite game. If you want to take it one step further, organize a family council meeting that allows your child to openly participate in family events and decisions.


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